Sunday, February 22nd, 2009...10:37 pm
The bEnd in the Road
Hi everybody. I know this is probably going to come out of left field, but I’m going on a long hiatus. For months I’ve been posting less and less. I’ve been waiting for things worth posting about to happen, but I haven’t been living my life - not living means nothing will happen.
Once upon a time, I was perfectly happy to spend hours on end sitting here and reading and writing. I blogged when Knute napped and after he went to bed. Then, he stopped napping, and I blogged all 12 hours he was in school each week. That was okay, but I didn’t really even get to enjoy the few hours I was off duty.
Then, the lines further blurred when I began to feel guilty for doing things for myself. There are three Netflix movies sitting on my counter wanting to be watched, but I haven’t wanted to take two hours away from the computer to watch any of them. TV? Same thing.
Knute told me last week to “shut the computer, Mommy,” and I gotta say, it stung. I went to the conference and I saw people who were on computers 15 hours a day. I cannot become that person. The dynamic has changed for me.
I love you guys. I appreciate the time and energy it takes you to comment on my site. But for right now, I need to get a little perspective. I’m so incredibly lucky to be able to stay home with Knute, and I want to enjoy that again. I sincerely hope you understand.
92 Comments
February 22nd, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Understood.
Enjoy Knute. Dust off those movies. Go get a pedicure. Pick up a book. Go sit in the sun.
Just . . . enjoy.
LaskiGals last blog post..For Misty
February 22nd, 2009 at 11:48 pm
Enjoy your time with him! AND most certainly do something for yourself.
We’ll be here when you come back.
CourtneyRyans last blog post..Grace in Small Things (#7)
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:11 am
This is hard to do, and I know because I’ve thought about it many times.
Good decision. Have fun! I hope you’ll stop back by here once in a while.
amy @ milk breath and margaritass last blog post..Working Mom’s Closet - Vintage Black and White
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:12 am
Girl I totally understand where you’re coming from. I should do the same thing.
We’ll all be here when you come back. Promise.
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:14 am
Enough said. I understand. We’ll all be here when you are ready to come back! Enjoy!
bermudabluezs last blog post..Inspiration for the Day
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:21 am
You certainly deserve the break.
Are you still coming to the dinner on Saturday?
Texan Mamas last blog post..Money… That’s What I Want
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:22 am
i will think of you as i sip my Mimosa on Monday! Enjoy your little one while he is still little and hope to see you around from time to time!
Courtneys last blog post..Get To Know The Whiner
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:03 am
NOW I understand.
Love you.
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:06 am
Good for you! Write when you feel like it again - we’ll be here to read it when you’re ready.
Bridges last blog post..Disconnect
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:23 am
Hey! Take all the time you need. I’ve taken… like, TWENTY hiatuses since I started blogging and each time I appreciated the fresh perspective and the time that it gave me to do other things.
I hope you’ll stop by from time to time. I’d still love to hear from you, but I’ll understand if not.
hugs as always!
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:27 am
Family and your life is the #1 thing you should immerse yourself with fully. Have fun, and we’ll be reading!
Senators last blog post..Teaser
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:33 am
Completely!! I think we keep comparing ourselves to women whose children are grown and can keep up with followers and comments. It’s gone from keeping a journal to being a business we don’t get paid to do. I’m with you, I love the friendships, but my children are tired of seeing my back.
We’ll be here when you need to come out and vent (you’re being followed, we KNOW when you’re out here) or share something– and you know I am only an email away. hugs!
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:59 am
How many times have I heard that one. Blah, ba, blah, I’m not going to do this anymore then BINGO, you’re back in three weeks. So like what? I got to get some new friends? I hate this part.
Audubon Rons last blog post..Who Needs the Academy Awards
February 23rd, 2009 at 3:32 am
Good for you! I couldn’t have done this when my kids were little. Heck, I can’t even do this now. My couch has a permanent indent from my huge butt. Sad. You go enjoy your family and your life.
You ever send those cows?
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:26 am
It takes a lot to admit that. You know we’re here if or when you’re ready.
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:35 am
I totally get where you’re coming from - life comes before blogging, that’s for sure!
Enjoy your time with Knute
Marylins last blog post..A Weekend Alone. Ish.
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:40 am
You’re right - it is exhausting. I’ve only been doing it for a week, and I’m totally knackered!
I’ve enjoyed reading your blog. Looking forward to your return one day. All the best!
memeweavers last blog post..Oh frabjous world of worthy wordiness!
February 23rd, 2009 at 7:18 am
We HEART you. Take all the time you need. We’ll be here if and when you’re ready.
Go enjoy your life!
wrights last blog post..Escape Into A Good Book
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:06 am
I know where to find you. Take the time with Knute. You are doing what is right for you and your family. There is NOTHING wrong with that.
Stephanies last blog post..Going Back Again?
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:07 am
Been there, done that.
Enjoy the time away. When it got to feeling like a job for me I did the same thing and haven’t regretted it for a minute. I miss my online friends, but it is nice having a “real” life, too.
BlueMommas last blog post..Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:21 am
I totally understand.
Knute comes first and that’s how it should be.
Enjoy your time! I won’t lie; you will be missed, but I know what’s important.
Krystyns last blog post..TV fun with the toddler-Mamalicious Monday
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:22 am
Selfishly, I’ll miss you.
But: Bravo! It sounds like the right decision for you. I hope you can get back to really living life and enjoying your time with Knute.
Allisons last blog post..My Little Man
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:36 am
We will miss you but I admire you doing what you need for your family. I’ve been posting less and trying to take a little more time off of here as well.
Hopefully, we will see you back someday! Take care.
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:38 am
I will miss reading what you write here, and I hope that you will stay in touch!
<3
Secret Agent Mamas last blog post..Indecisiveness at its Finest
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:40 am
I’ll miss you but have a wonderful time playing with Knute, watching films and reading.
Enjoy the yourself and take care
Mamrite and Teas last blog post..Valentine’s Day
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:48 am
oh no! who’s going to run PMS?
Just kidding. You take care of you. I’ll miss you — I hardly knew ya! Let us know when you’re back.
ciao,
rpm
red pen mamas last blog post..Meatless Monday: A Word on Meat Substitutes
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:56 am
Totally understand!
Caras last blog post..Theme Thursday: Love
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:03 am
Talk about your antithesis from the Blog 2.0 summit!
Hey take all the time you need, Knute needs you more than we do (for the most part). Trust me, I know where you are coming from and I try to never put my blog before my family - just doesn’t seem right. Which is why I only read others whiole at work (shh) and don’t write until the kids are in bed. Alas, your work is Knute so you can’t get away as easily as me.
Enjoy your break, and if you come back, we’l be waiting.
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:04 am
Take whatever time you need for yourself and your family. It takes courage to admit when you need a break and then to take it. Good for you.
We’ll be here when you have time and energy to come back around. Enjoy
Ashlie- Mommycosms last blog post..Why I’m tired today…
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:11 am
{hugs}
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:22 am
You will be missed. xoxo
CPA Moms last blog post..Smile! It’s National Laugh-Friendly Month
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:47 am
i’m always right here …
love you, hon.
the planet of janets last blog post..Weekly Winners: February 15-21
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:48 am
Go… find your happy.
Enjoy your family and being able to take care of them. We’ll be here if you decide to grace us with a window to your life once again! (Hugs)
NotAMeanGirls last blog post..Guest Post by Biddy
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:49 am
You will be missed…but I totally understand!
We will be here if and when you decide to return!!
Stephanies last blog post..Baby Myles’ Letters!! (and a shout-out to Em and Krys!!)
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:08 am
Thanks for sharing your life with us. Knute won’t be little forever, so enjoy the time you have with him. Meanwhile, be well and keep in touch. When you return we will be here, ready and anxious to continue in AFF’s adventures.
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:11 am
Btw, does this mean you’re giving up Mimosa Monday too?
Joyce-Annes last blog post..And Now a Word from our Sponsor
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:24 am
I understand. I hope your hiatus is full of awesome stuff. See you later!
Georgettes last blog post..I must be stupid.
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:32 am
Fare thee well.
patoiss last blog post..Grind Away
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:32 am
I get it. You’re right, it can be pretty addictive and it seems like there is always something better to do. I’ve been thinking about giving it up for awhile too. See you when you get back!
Nancys last blog post..Random Recommendations
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:51 am
I get it. I really do. I feel, at times, blogging has become another chore I have to do along with laundry and cleaning and that is SO not what I wanted when I started.
Take your break. Show your face now and then so we know you’re alive and well. I’ll be here when you get back!
Kellies last blog post..I Don’t Rock
February 23rd, 2009 at 11:52 am
Completely understand. Find your happy, take time for yourself and Knute, enjoy life outside this box. We will be around anytime you feel the need to visit us here.
I took off two days last week and it felt so nice, I may find myself doing that more often.
We will miss you!
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:27 pm
I’m with you, I really am. I’ve been slipping too. Go take that break, you deserve it.
Siobhans last blog post..Skills They Don’t Teach You in Preschool
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:51 pm
I too, understand this completely. I haven’t blogged in over a month, and I haven’t really been able to put it into words, but you summed exactly how I’ve been feeling.
It can be hard to find a balance. I keep saying that I’m ready to start again, but there are so many other things that I should be doing, the least of which is enjoying my family. I must say the this last month has been nice in that regard, anyway.
Take all the time you need, I’ll still be here when you get back.
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:03 pm
Right there with you, my friend. Some days I think I should just delete the blog and be done with it.
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:04 pm
YIPPEE!!! I couldn’t be happier for you! We’ll all miss you terribly but YAY! you’re getting time for yourself!!!! Whoo-hoo! See ya when I see ya!
Sabrinas last blog post..Sunday Stills: Architecture
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:19 pm
I’m feeling you….and will still follow you when you come back whether I do or not…XOXOX
Tonis last blog post..Love Is In The Air…
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:27 pm
I’m sure we will be here, happy to see you, when you get back!
Now go put your feet up and relax a bit.
February 23rd, 2009 at 2:57 pm
Sounds good to me. Blogging is not the day job.
I hope you come back sometimes though. There’s not enough feisty wee bitches about.
Sass E-mums last blog post..The Valentine’s Post: Somerset
February 23rd, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Prioritizing family first is always a good thing even if it means I’ll “see” less of you. Hugs. Joie
Joie at Canned Lughters last blog post..Google Game
February 23rd, 2009 at 3:51 pm
You are making a very wise choice.
15 hours a day? And I felt guilty about my 2 hours.
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Totally understand. I’ve been wrestling with same stuff myself and I have older kids.
Joannas last blog post..Old Man Winter Is A Jerk
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:02 pm
I get it.
Still gonna miss you, though.
jerseygirl89s last blog post..Evidence of My GROSS* Incompetence
February 23rd, 2009 at 5:48 pm
You know I completely agree with your decision and it’s the reason I pretty much didn’t blog the whole time I was home with TM. Our kids have to come first. We have to come second. The computer? Probably shouldn’t even rank third.
It’s also the reason I quit Plurk, btw. I wanted to make sure that I got to do other things, like spend time with hubby, rather than be online all the time.
Catwomans last blog post..Four Months: My Letter to Tiny Man
February 23rd, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Interesting. We cruised this weekend. I was amazed at just how little I missed my computer…I think I’m going to be scaling back a bit, too.
Enjoy your time off…
Melissas last blog post..Ex-Haust-Ed!!
February 23rd, 2009 at 7:04 pm
Hopefully you are not here reading these comments, but if you are…
This is exactly what all my quitting and restarting has been about for the last two years.
It’s all about balance. I hope you find yours.
XOXO,
~R
Robinellas last blog post..Round Robin - Light
February 23rd, 2009 at 8:48 pm
I wrestle with this too…I definitely understand. I’ll miss you though. Take care. Enjoy life out there.
Mom24@4evermoms last blog post..Meal Plan #48
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Do what you need to do. Priorities… and kiddos are it. You will be missed. Don’t be a stranger.
Tara R.s last blog post..The Premios Dardo Award
February 23rd, 2009 at 10:45 pm
I get it, it’s why I barely blog any more. You have to take this time while it’s there for the taking. ENJOY!!
Bethanys last blog post..Who Wants To Go To The Circus?
February 23rd, 2009 at 11:01 pm
I understand. I SO get it. I’ve written this same post in my head about 1,000 times recently while posting less, but haven’t the courage to hit publish.
My daughter said to me the other day, “no no! don’t go to your computer!” Ouch.
It’s crazy how much of a time suck blogging can be.
Good for you for taking this much needed break. We’ll be here if/when you’re ready to post
Momisodess last blog post..A fork in the road, and I just want to use it to eat
February 23rd, 2009 at 11:17 pm
I said it all in my private thing to you. Not only are we reading the same book, on the same page, on the same paragraph; we are on the same sentence! I will miss you. You go on and do what you gotta do girlfriend! XOXOXOXO
Kaytabugs last blog post..1 Finger Salute
February 24th, 2009 at 12:07 am
totally get that! Have a great time with him.
faroutmoms last blog post..Tall Grass Shorty
February 24th, 2009 at 12:25 am
Without reading what everyone else said up there, I could probably say much of the same.
However, I will just say that it’s a smart, smart woman who knows when to walk away. It’s a strong, strong woman who CAN walk away. And it’s a totally AWESOME, best-ever-in-the-world mommy who does it without regret (and yes, there are little ones… c’mon–social networking at its finest does a much more in-depth job than the finest religions ever could at the whole guilt thing; but I’m talking MAJOR regrets here)…. strictly to see the look of love and joy on the face of your child.
You? Are all of the above. Smart, strong, and an AWESOME mommy.
Plus? You don’t have to read my blog, or have yours read by me to be my friend. You know where to find me. And I am always here if you feel like saying hi. Or laughing. Or just comparing mother-of-boy notes.
Take care, darlin’.
Sports Mamas last blog post..I Think I Might Thank Steven King
February 24th, 2009 at 3:13 am
If you come back, we’ll be here to welcome you.
If not, we’ll all remember and hope you’re having a fantastic time.
Enjoy yourself!
February 24th, 2009 at 8:09 am
Of course we understsand and those who don’t can kiss your butt.
nikkis last blog post..Misery loves company, so why don’t you join me
February 24th, 2009 at 11:27 am
Enjoy your time off girl! See ya in the Plurks:)
Nap Wardens last blog post..Sick, and Wrong
February 24th, 2009 at 3:20 pm
I will truly miss you, woman. And if you DO come back, I will welcome you with open arms and never, EVER chide you for having taken yourself away from those of us who love you truly and dearly and … crap. I’d better just shut my mouth and bid you fond ‘Adieu’. Be good. Be safe. Be healthy. Love you.
lceels last blog post..edited and revised
February 24th, 2009 at 5:28 pm
I love you, too. Enjoy your life and especially your baby while he still is one.
See you (or read you) on the flip side.
February 24th, 2009 at 7:04 pm
Will miss you lots but I totally understand!
Keep us posted though!
Poltzies last blog post..Purse
February 25th, 2009 at 12:43 am
Aww, I’ll miss your posts, but of course I understand.
You should definitely enjoy those free hours while he’s in school!
How about the book club?
Kilas last blog post..Tuesday night…
February 25th, 2009 at 1:09 am
I have to say I wondered when this day would come for you…you put so much effort, not only into your own blog, but into other people’s blogs as well. I always appreciated your comments, even when I was so shitty at commenting on your blog (along with every one else’s!) I hope you enjoy your break, no matter how long or short.
Hope to see you on facebook sometimes!
Oh, and I can’t even tell you how many times my kids have told me to get off the computer…it does sting! (Especially when your 4 year old says “i’ve asked you for a drink 3 times! Get off the computer!”)
February 25th, 2009 at 1:53 am
If you ask anyone I know it’s the one thing I have always said about blogging….I’ve never been able to figure out when all these mommy bloggers are able to find the time to blog. I’m constantly amazed at every single one I come across who manages to write and comment and still give their children some great quality time.
I’ll keep you in my reader so if you do come back I’ll know. It’s been a really great time getting to know you through your blog. You’re an amazing woman and an amazing mom and a lot of people can learn from you. Hugs to you!
Joy T.s last blog post..I’ll-Do-It-Tomorrow-itis
February 25th, 2009 at 11:50 am
I’m sure you’re getting huge Knute hugs right this minute! Have fun! Hopefully will see you again when things fit better. Hugs!
Lisa’s Chaoss last blog post..Starfish Macro Monday
February 25th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Understood. I’ve thought about quitting blogging on and off, but I do enjoy it - I just don’t want to spend all my evenings in front of the computer instead of with Adrian.
Have fun but don’t disappear completely!
Katies last blog post.."Scotch" Tape
February 25th, 2009 at 10:04 pm
Have fun! If ya want to go to the park in real life, give me a call…
texasholly @ June Cleaver Nirvanas last blog post..Holly goes to poker school
February 26th, 2009 at 12:57 am
[...] I was low. Real low. Thoughts of extending this break for weeks, maybe months, or even indefinitely entered my mind. Especially after reading Holly’s latest post. [...]
February 26th, 2009 at 1:03 am
I think this is quite possibly your best piece of writing ever.
You know I get this, I do.
Big love to you, baby.
xoxo
VDogs last blog post..I Went to BlissDom and All I Got Was Licked and Groped
February 26th, 2009 at 11:26 am
I know exactly how you feel. Some days you feel you are owned body and soul by people you’ve never even met!!
Come back and see us once in awhile!!
February 26th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
Man, do I hear ya on that. I have thought over and over again about shutting the whole thing down. And I get this guilty feeling for thinking that because it has really become such a great way to document my boys lives and my feelings while they are growing up. But so much of it feels like a chore too. And it really sucks up the time I want to be spending with my boys.
Basically, I’ve decided that I will post whenever I feel I have something to say. I will no longer stay awake trying to think of clever or interesting posts. If they are there, they are there. That’s it. And I can’t visit all my bloggy friends everyday (which is why I’m first here now, sorry) anymore. It is just TOO MUCH. Priorities. They are a good thing.
I hope you find a perfect balance for you, and in the meantime, enjoy life!!!!
And of course, we’ll be here when you get back.
Kats last blog post..Birthday Wishes
February 26th, 2009 at 3:47 pm
Well, you KNOW I feel ya. Life’s too short to be lived virtually.
Love, fun - your way. xoxo.
February 26th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
I couldn’t imagine being on the computer for 15 hours a day! My family would kill me if I was on the computer that long. Personally I think that is just a little selfish.
Cascia @ Healthy Momss last blog post..Healthy Moms Needs Your Help!
February 26th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
No explanation needed.
Take time and find that balance…you HAVE to have it.
{hugs!}
February 27th, 2009 at 12:26 am
Good for you- I keep telling myself to do this - i do - but I have been a happier person from blogging . . . are my kids . . . likely not. I have mostly said - this summer - I will NOT blog all summer long. I will focus 100% on my kids. let’s see if I can do that?
See you soon
February 27th, 2009 at 7:29 am
Enjoy your break!!
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February 28th, 2009 at 1:48 pm
I totally get it. I totally feel the pain. I, too am doing this less and less. I will keep in touch and may get you to guest post once in a blue moon. I am going to miss you tonight. Please take care and know you aren’t the only one dealing with this.
jill jill bo bills last blog post..One Act Play(er)
February 28th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
Enjoy it. All of it. I’m around if you ever need or want to get together.
We’ll miss you at the dinner tonight. Blessings…
Elaine
Elaines last blog post..My Day
February 28th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Good GOD, woman! Of course we understand. And get it. Completely. I hope you dive into your life and feel it, and it feels good. Know that you can come back posting 2 or 3 times a week.
Hugs to you!
JCKs last blog post..Sometimes it is easy to forget that she is only 4
March 1st, 2009 at 9:48 am
Holly,
I missed this post and was so surprised and sad not to see you last night
After reading this, I COMPLETELY understand. I think we all do. It’s a balancing act and sometimes you need to let one plate drop to take care of a much more important one.
I hope we can stay in touch and don’t worry about the blog world–when you come back, you will be accepted with wide open arms.
(And seriously, 15 hours a day?! That’s insane!)
Love,
Lisa
Lisa@verybusymomwith4s last blog post..Please say a Little Prayer for Dino
March 1st, 2009 at 9:54 am
Awwww Holly,
You go enjoy your beautiful life. Hugs!
Karen
x
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March 1st, 2009 at 1:57 pm
I’ll miss you!! But I know what it means to need a break. I just got done with one myself…unplanned, but needed I think.
Sarahs last blog post..Weekly Winners - 03/01/09
March 2nd, 2009 at 11:26 am
Preaching to the choir. Enjoy your time!! I think I might be right behind you…
March 5th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
I hope you enjoy your time off from the internet. I gotta say, when I was on vacation, it was fun not having the “responsibility” of blogging.
Go and enjoy your family! Although I’d be lying if I said I wouldn’t miss you. I totally would.
March 9th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
Just wanted to say “hi” and “I hear yah”…I think I’m averaging one post a month these days for the same reasons you listed.
I also wanted to say that I thoroughly enjoyed “About the Author” and am now listening to the audiobook, Rebecca…I bought it to listen in the car for our multiple long road trips (although, I think I should’ve bought the kindle version to read) and am enjoying that immensely also. Thanks for the suggestions.
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